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March 29 2009

While one third of the women said the thought of approaching their fourth decade “filled them with dread”, many saw it as a coming of age, with 65% of respondents creating a list of things they wanted to achieve before their birthday.

The Turning 30 report, which was carried out by the magazine Elle, also found that today’s 30-year-olds were no longer the career-driven women of a decade ago but were instead looking for happiness in their personal lives ahead of work fulfilment. Some 70% of women considered it the age at which they put their relationships and personal lives ahead of their careers, with more than 80% thinking it was the perfect age to get married.

But it also suggested women had not given up on ambition: instead they were widening their understanding of it to include all the elements of their lives that bring them happiness, be that work, love, family or a combination of all of them, without the pressure to prove themselves in one single sphere.

— More here (via gauntlet)

March 28 2009

Listen and listen closely—I will not say this again.  I am not ashamed.  I am not filled with regret.  I am not going to change my mind.  This is who I am. 

I have a brain and I also have breasts.  I am proud of both.  I have a mind, a working mind, a productive and creative mind—I also have a body.  This is the wonderful thing: my body does not negate my mind.  My mind does not negate my body.  Look, isn’t this wonderful?  I can have both!

I understand that in the past women were forced to make a choice: be beautiful or be brainy.  Be serious or be sexual.  Be chaste or be chastised.  That time has passed.  

I refuse to be forced to make a choice, to submit to the virgin/whore dichotomy.  I refuse to sacrifice happiness, contentedness, satisfaction, adventure—I refuse to sacrifice my life and my personality for an archaic and oppressive virtue.  I refuse to endure lectures and judgment from people who cannot understand my choices.  I refuse to be silenced.  I refuse to be censored.  I refuse to be defeated by a worn out, baseless argument for chastity or modesty whose only purpose is to deny females their right to have it all.

Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the 21st century.  Welcome to a world where a woman can have sex however she chooses: in a relationship, outside of a relationship, in love, out of love, in a hurry, out of lust, in excess and out of darkness.  Welcome to a world without double standards.  Welcome to a world without medieval codes of conduct, disparate expections for men and women and, best of all, welcome to a world where seeking pleasure does not mean invoking shame—your own or someone else’s.

Do not tell me that in celebrating my body, my sexuality, my physical existence that I am somehow betraying myself—betrayal would be denying myself the right to choose the colour and context of my happiness. 

If you look at me and only see breasts that is your failure, not mine.

Paint me with a scarlet letter; I will wear it with pride. I will happily, dutifully wear that letter as a symbol of my refusal to be broken by the misogynist social code that prohibits women from exalting in their capacity to simultaneously experience sex and respect.

Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to the 21st century.

In celebration of womanhood- Ruhi

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DIY of the Day: Mrs. Muyonjo, who lives in the small, remote village of Ivukula in eastern Uganda, had to ride her bicycle 20 miles to the nearest city with electricity in order to charge her cell phone.

One day, the operators of the charging station Mrs. Muyonjo frequented unscrupulously swapped her long-lasting battery for a cheap one that barely lasted a day. Knowing that she couldn’t afford to ride into town on a daily basis, Mrs. Muyonjo constructed a homemade charging device using five D batteries wrapped together with found material.

While not particularly safe — Mrs. Muyonjo had to remove the plug from the phone’s existing charger and hook up the exposed wires to her home-brewed battery pack — it apparently gets the job done. And, given her extenuating circumstances, that’s really all Mrs. Muyonjo can ask for.

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Top 10 Rejection Lines Given by Women (and what they actually mean..)

randominternet:

10. I think of you as a brother. (You remind me of that inbred banjo-playing geek in “Deliverance”)

9. There’s a slight difference in our ages. (You are one Jurassic geezer.)

8. I’m not attracted to you in ‘that’ way (You are the ugliest dork I’ve ever laid eyes upon)

7. My life is too complicated right now. (I don’t want you spending the whole night or else you may hear phone calls from all the other guys I’m seeing)

6. I’ve got a boyfriend (who’s really my male cat and a half gallon of Ben & Jerry’s)

5. I don’t date men where I work (Hey bud, I wouldn’t even date you if you were in the same solar system, much less the same building)

4. It’s not you, it’s me (It’s not me, it’s you)

3. I’m concentrating on my career (Even something as boring and unfulfilling as my job is better than dating you.)

2. I’m celibate. (I’ve sworn off *only* the men like you.)

…..and the #1 rejection line given by women (and what it actually means)

1. Let’s be friends. (I want you to stay around so I can tell you in excruciating detail about all the other men I meet and have sex with.”

via Top Ten Rejection Lines

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He bought me these yesterday from the st louis art museum. Made of silver and porcelain and styled after jewellery from Ming Dynasty era of China.
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Ming dynasty exhibit ticket

March 27 2009

If at first you don’t succeed, failure may be your style.
— Quentin Crisp
It’s 140 characters. It’s so few characters. If you need a ghostwriter for that, I feel sorry for you.
— Shaq on celebrities who use ghost Twitterers, in the NY Times (via nickdouglas) (via suitep)
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LOL

carocat:

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This is Probably where I am at now and having trouble understanding this phase

inyourcar:

i miss when we were afraid to be mean to each other. our relationship was delicate. both of us were worried that we would scare the other one away, so we were careful in our words. now we have no second thoughts. our words come barreling out at each other like violent winds that feel sharp on our faces. no holds barred, no regards.

i miss when we didn’t know anything about each other. our relationship was fresh. each new day that we talked meant new discoveries about the other. now we’re racking our brains for something to say that doesn’t sound like the same things we’ve said again and again. our conversations feel like wells run dry. less stories, more silences.

i’ve changed and you’ve changed and that’s okay. as long as we change together, interwovenly. growing together instead of apart. you told me you hoped we would last forever. you probably don’t remember saying it, but i do. maybe that’s the problem.

I think I said some insensitive to my neighbor and didn’t realize it then. I feel bad now and don’t know how to tell him that I didn’t mean it the way I it probably sounded. :( I’ll say sorry tomorrow.

March 26 2009

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They missed F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Lease Renewal

I went to the leasing office to get my lease renewed. I wanted to renew it for only 6 months because I don’t know if I’ll be in the same city after that. My contract with the current client expires Oct. end. So, this lady at the front desk wanted to know why I only wanna renew my lease for 6 months and not 12 months. It took me 5 minutes to make her understand that. Then she told me that if I renew for 12 months, I get 1 month’s rent free. Also, since I work for XXX company as a contractor, I can be on their “preferred client” program which lets me get out of the lease by giving a 30 day notice. So, suppose my contract gets over in Oct (and the lease gets over next March 2010), I can still get out without paying any penalty in Oct as long as I give a 30 day notice. And I get to pay the same rent. Renewing the lease for 6 months only required me to pay $50 extra per month. I need to go back tomorrow with a copy of my paystub so that they can run a credit check again and add me to the “preferred client” program. All of that is good. What got me really mad is that she was trying to tell me that EVERYONE in St. Louis pays his/her water+trash bills. Supposedly, she had some sort of a research document handy. I told her that I have friends who don’t and that the leasing company pays for it. She almost fought with me. After a long day, the last time I want to do is fight with a leasing agent in the front office. I chose not to fight back and let it pass. I get 1 month’s rent free anyway. Yes, that’s the prize I get for choosing not to fight back with her, I guess.

While I was talking to this woman, this other leasing agent tries to butt in and asks me “oh so you are a contractor”, “yeah you can just get a letter from your company, doesn’t have to be on the client letterhead blah blah”, “so your visa status is _______”. I don’t know why I responded to all these questions. I gave her a pointed look, but I wanted to really tell her “how are these questions related to my lease renewal?”

These people at the front desk remind me of those who hold positions in menial govt. jobs. This is the only way they feel like they are in power! I still feel disgusted thinking about it. And oh, she asked me to drop my paystub in the “dropbox”. As if I’m gonna do that when it has my SSN#. And I told her that! Her response: Fair enough.

March 24 2009

I am full time doctor and was used to take care of my OPD.I have had one and half years of healthy practised which I terminated as I got call from US for higher education.
— from my friend’s Orkut profile. LOL.
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carocat:

Hey, I still remember how to do that, too! :)

March 19 2009

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